Our ego minds are programmed and then neurologically wired to select and interpret evidence supporting the relationship to our self as “I'm OK” and there is nothing wrong with me that I need to change, even when there is evidence that proves this to be contradictory. A variety of mechanisms: conscious, unconscious, and social will direct our attention to ignore the negative behaviors we cause in our life and to instead highlight what we think is positive or acceptable in order to increase our optimism and reduce our anxiety when facing problems or challenges.
Through the course of growing up from childhood into adulthood, we develop coping skills and will come to label people, places or objects in the environment that are acceptable or not acceptable in our belief systems. Ego defenses are similar to mental racketeering programs that are commonly used as coping mechanisms for reducing day to day anxiety, fears, and obsessions that are related to thought addiction or the need to control the environment. When we are addicted to our thoughts, we have lost balance with our feelings and sensory abilities that allow us to be fully present in the moment and be in a receptive mode to better discern the environment and their energies.
We work hard to retain the belief that “I'm OK” and there is nothing is wrong with me, even when faced with repeated negative patterns and feeling unhappy in life. Self-justification based upon social and mental programs of acceptance of negative and harmful behaviors, is deeply ingrained in each of us in order to feel better. To cope in this world our mental patterns make it easier for us to surface skim the information in the environment that easily supports what we already think we know or believe. To remain comfortable with our world view through confirmation bias, even if its not working well for us, is the way we resist change, or resist the need for emotional and spiritual growth.
Unfortunately, we often are confused by what we perceive incorrectly through our own need to be okay through self-justification. We formulate these distortions as Ego Defense Mechanisms because we have not learned how to free the mind through the use of Negative Ego tools for self-exploration and deeper self-inquiry. As we learn to free our mind and love ourselves unconditionally, we know that we are okay without needing to self-justify. When we are free of our own need for self-justification, (by increasing our inner self-approval and self-love, no matter where we find ourselves) then we do not need to justify others or justify ourselves. We are then freed to be capable of unconditionally loving others no matter what they may be choosing to do in that moment. It is what it is in this moment. One has no control over others nor what others may think about them.
The quality of our thinking shapes our belief systems and attitudes and is the result of accumulated life memories and the personality filter which form perception, judgment, bias and skills or proficiencies. Our brain commonly distorts an accurate assessment of the reality in order to increase our Self Esteem or coping mechanism through discomfort by self-justification. When we are using a coping mechanism to self-justify, we present a one-sided argument to ourselves. Spirit of Humility reduces our need for self-justification and allows us to admit to and learn from our mistakes or negative ego behaviors. Humility is the key to help us overcome many of these thought distortions which evolve into a host of ego defense mechanisms. During times of stress, overload, or threat, we often resort to a simplistic form of thinking, called primal thinking.
Primal thinking when it is repetitive and left unchecked, accumulates factors in us that we may start to believe these base untruths about ourselves. When we are overstressed or overwhelmed we may go back to the “root” fears or primitive layers. It is only when we have arrived at a level of trust that we are secure and safe in this world, safe in our relationship to God spirit, that we can fully clear survival root fears and eliminate primal thinking. Whenever we feel unsafe we go back to the root of our survival fears, which trigger ego defenses into base thoughts. This is why building one’s relationship to the self and building one’s spiritual practice to deeply connect with one’s higher power is the most important practice one can do. This is the way ego discipline is formed and strength in the foundation of one’s core is built. For an accurate assessment of reality and circumstances, it is important to reexamine the situation using purposeful, valid, thoughtful, and accurate analysis that properly allows for the complexities we face. We can blend a synthesis of analysis with Higher Sensory Perception in order to have better assessment ability and to understand, what is.
Let’s discuss more about the most common ego defense mechanisms that block our Higher Sensory Perception and the ability to return back into neutral states of centering. The Ego Defense Mechanisms: These mental thought patterns are distortions that we call ego defense mechanisms. Ego defense mechanisms help us avoid accepting evidence that challenges our self-image as a good and worthy person or that challenge our strongly held stereotypes or belief systems.
We have a series of life experiences which accumulate and collect memories that lead us to form belief systems about the nature of reality and the way that our world works or doesn’t work. Through the course of growing up from childhood into adulthood, we develop coping skills and will come to label people, places or objects in the environment that are acceptable or not acceptable in our belief systems. Ego defenses are similar to mental racketeering programs that are commonly used as coping mechanisms for reducing day to day anxiety, fears, and obsessions that are related to thought addiction or the need to control the environment. When we are addicted to our thoughts, we have lost balance with our feelings and sensory abilities that allow us to be fully present in the moment and be in a receptive mode to better discern the environment and their energies. Our goal in self-mastery is to find the balance between our thought process and our feeling process so that we recognize distortions in our thinking which block Higher Sensory Perception.
When we identify these types of Mental Triggers that take us into distorted thought patterns, through noticing our tension, anxiety or frustration levels, we can switch the balance in ourselves to find a way to release our stress. Immediately we can shift tension through refocusing our mind into breath, or refocusing into the current moment sensory-feeling awareness. By refocusing oneself at the moment tension or stress is being experienced, it prevents impulsive reactions such as blurting out negative words or expressing angry behavior. When we express angry behavior impulsively, it is usually is not a pleasant or positive situation for ourselves or others around us.
When we have allowed anger to make us impulsive it means we have embodied that angry state, which is not a healthy practice for anyone. This is very emotionally damaging in a person and in creating relationships based on trust with others. In most social situations, it is preferable to recognize anger and learn to observe that anger as it builds without allowing the angry state of being to overwhelm and take over one’s body, mind and emotions. It is possible to witness and feel anger instantaneously and to refocus that anger immediately, in so to refuse anger to become your identity as a person.